The Woman as a Mother: Status and Role
Islam has given great honour to women, and more so to a mother. The
Beloved Rasool ؓ◌ taught us the importance of loving our mothers.
A man came to the Beloved Rasool and told him that he had taken a vow
that should Allah grant Rasoolullah ؓ◌ victory at Makkah, he would go to
Kaaba and kiss its doorpost.
The Beloved Rasool instructed him by saying
‘Go and kiss the feet of your mother. Your vow will be complete.’ [Allama
Ayni – Umdat ul Qari, Sharah al-Bukhari]
Hazrat Abdullah ibn Abbas reported that a Sahabi came to the The Beloved
Nabi and said
I had taken a vow that when Allah Ta’ala conquers Makkah for you, I would
go there and kiss the doorsill of the Kaa’ba. The Beloved Nabi said
Kiss the feet of your mother. Indeed! You will have fulfilled your vow.
[Umdat ul Qari]
It must be noted that the very important role that a woman plays, is that
of a loving and caring mother. The respect that has been given to the
mother is a very exalted one.
The Beloved Nabi said,
“Paradise is under the feet of the mother.”
In other words, if the mother is not pleased with the child, the child will
not be able to attain Jannat. As a mother, the responsibilities are very great.
The mother is always the first teacher to her child, and her child learns that
which the mother portrays.
Some Duties of A Mother
Some of the duties of the mother towards her child in the light of the
1. To care and show love and tenderness towards your children, not hurting
their feelings or showing hatred towards them.
2. To make sure that the child is in good health and to care for the hygiene
of one’s children.
3. If there is no difficulty in suckling, then the mother should suckle her
child, as this is of great benefit to the child.
Note: A mother may not suckle her child for more than two years.
4. Avoid shouting and unnecessarily frightening your children as this
psychologically effects the child
5. When the child first learns to talk, teach them the Name of Allah and His
Rasool and other good words. Read the Kalima to them, so it is
embedded in their hearts.
6. When the child reaches an age of learning, then first teach them the Holy
Qur’an and Islamic education.
7. Teach them Islamic morals and ethics. They should be taught respect for
8. When the child reaches the age of seven, make sure that they are taught
the proper method of Namaaz. Teach them to differentiate between Halaal
9. Keep them away from bad company.
10. Do not allow them to learn songs and dances of the unbelievers. Teach
them to recite Na’at Shareef and Qasidas etc.
11. Remember to make the Aqeeqah for your children.
12. Teach them to dress Islamically
13. Teach them the proper beliefs of the Ahle Sunnat Wa Jama’at (The
Proper Sunni Way as thought by Aala Hazrat Imam Ahmed Raza ؓ◌ in this
Era). Forbid them from befriending non-Sunnis (i.e. deviants).
14. Encourage them to frequent Meelad Shareef, Gyarhwee Shareef and
other Islamic events.
15. Do not allow them to frequent places of sin, such as cinemas, nightclubs
Your children are given to you in trust from Almighty Allah. Do not betray
this trust. Bring them up in the manner that Islam has commanded.
The Beloved Rasool said that, amongst the things that will benefit a
person after death, is if he or she left behind pious children on earth.
Remember! Pious children will pray for you when you have passed away.
This will however not happen, if you did not bestow Islamic Knowledge
May Almighty Allah bless us all with pious children who will serve His